I Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. I Peter 2: 17 Honor all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the King. I Peter 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous. I Corinthians 13:4-5 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.
We live in a day and age when many put aside good manners. You used to see books on etiquette and Miss Manners as a regular column in the newspaper. People were instructed on proper behavior and taught by example as well. But as anyone of grey hair can tell you, those days are gone and well mannered children are the exception rather than the rule. As you can see from the first verse evil speech brings evil manners. I am appalled daily at the foul speech of our political leaders. They don’t even try to hide it anymore. But Jesus said by thy words thou shalt be justified and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Also in the context notice that corrupt doctrine is corrupt speech. So be careful how you speak before your children for little pitchers have big ears. Next love and honor your wife. Boys in particular need to see this. Open the door for her rise when she enters the room, seat her at the table and compliment her. A wife will forgive many short comings if she is simply noticed and given attention. Next reverence and obey your husband. If the child is to obey the command to honor his father he needs your example. Next honor all men. This includes the politician you hate most and an unbelievably rude person on the internet. If more people spoke face to face and had to answer for it (the Bible says A fools mouth calleth for strokes) this nation would have more civility. The Bible says to be courteous. Note that the word begins with court. So you should have behavior befitting a king’s court. And remember that children need to see you, for T. V. teaches atrocious manners. And most manners are learned at the good old fashioned supper table. Most importantly is the last verses, to have charity. If you have love and compassion and respect and charity most manners will come naturally. I hope this is a help and blessing to you all. Remember those special words that unlock doors: sir, ma’am, please, thank you, excuse me, may I.